You cannot just walk up to a lady who barely knows you, confess your undying love and expect her to welcome you with both hands wide open. There is a need to adopt a winning tactic before proposing any kind of relationship. The following are the 7 secrets to winning a lady’s heart.
1) Declare your intentions
The most common mistake guys make is by becoming best friends with a lady they really like then later try to turn the relationship into a romantic one. Trying to transform a platonic relationship into a romantic affair is utterly quixotic; it only happens in the movies. Let her know from the start that you think of her as a potential
Let her know from the start that you think of her as a potential partner, not a sister. This means when she begins blabbing and seeking your advice on some other ‘cute dude’ who is eyeing her you immediately interject “Sorry I’m not going discuss other guys with you. Let’s keep this conversation between you and me!”
Even when you are sure she is the one you would wish to spend the rest of your life with never reveal this on the first few days. Proclaiming that you want to marry and have 5 kids with her on the first date will only scare her off especially if she isn’t interested in settling down just yet. Drop subtle hints that you are interested in a possibly long term relationship without much detail.
2) Share little intimate details about self
The most effective way of encouraging a lady to open up with you about her life is by sharing little intimate details about your own life with her. This will make her feel trusted and special. Share with her about your ambitions albeit careful not to seem too proud, innermost fears, childhood memories and your weaknesses like how you sometimes cry when watching a movie with a touching storyline. Remember to also tell her about your most embarrassing moments while infusing humor. Being able to laugh at your own embarrassing moments exudes confidence.
Avoid bragging about what your family members have achieved or the flashy cars and palatial homes you own. This may impress a few opportunistic girls but a lady who makes her own money will not fall for such. She is interested in knowing who you really are as a person, not your net worth.
3) Charm her
Since ladies are auditory creatures, words will always have a profound effect on them. Notice every little detail about her like when she sports a new hairstyle or when she does her nails. Compliment her regularly. Remind her of how irresistible she is. How lovely her eyes are, how enchanting her smile is and how beautiful she is. Let her know the effect she has on you like how your mind goes blank when she gives you a certain look. Never forget to highlight her inner beauty too.
Hold her hand in public, hug her from behind, kiss her neck and watch the sunset with her. Take her to a secure park at midnight, lie on a mat and watch the stars. The greatest secret to being a charmer is showing a lady how you treasure, find her attractive and care about her without saying the 3 magical words until the time is right.
4) Become her main source of inspiration
It gets to a point in life when we get comfortable with the little we have and stop working towards bettering ourselves. Challenge her status quo, inspire her to move out of her comfort zone and pursue her wildest dreams. Find out what she is so passionate about and help her achieve it. For instance, if she likes helping the less fortunate in the society, help her organize a fund drive and accompany her to the social works missions.
When other people tell her it’s impossible, hold her hand, reassure her of your unwavering support and trust in her abilities. When she is discouraged and depressed ignite the verve in her. To become her main source of inspiration you must also be optimistic and motivated to achieve your dreams. Seek her advice before making major life decisions, listen to her and take her opinion serious. This will make her feel valued and that she has a role to play in your life.
5) Get her a pet name and ‘your song’
This is the name only you call her. Avoid clichés like honey or sweetheart and go for something creative. The pet name should resonate with her personality. If she is delicate, caring and emotional you can have the name of a flower as her pet name showcasing her fragility. However, if she is an aggressive, tough and determined woman name her after a rare gemstone or rock. Calling her by her pet name has a magical effect on fostering a stronger bond.
Together with her, choose a classic love song that you both like especially one that involves a man and woman singing about how they feel to one another. Make this tune ‘your song’ and learn the lyrics. Whenever together play this song on a stereo then dance and sing along.
6) Surprise her
Surprise her with little yet well-thought gifts. To pull this off you need to pay extra attention to her conversations. What does she yearn for most? Flowers and chocolates may be nice but they are perishable. Electronic gadgets too are easily lost and go obsolete rather fast. Go for gifts that will leave a lasting impression and have sentimental value.
Like you could enlist the help of an artist to paint a portrait of how she looked the first time you met. The portrait should capture everything from her dress, shoes, earrings, and hairstyle and of course her charming smile. At the back of that painting stick a note describing how you felt on that day.
7) Keep her guessing
Once a lady figures out everything about you to the point she can predict your next move then you cease being interesting. Avoid sticking to predictable schedules like texting her “good morning” “how was your day?” and “good night” messages every day at a specific time. When you have nothing new or interesting to say shun from communicating.
Keep her guessing; let her anticipate your next move by being phenomenal. For example when you are both chilling at your place stiff bored ask her to dress up so you can go to some place without revealing the destination. When she is ready, take her paintballing or go-karting especially if she has never been there before.
When you are an enigma she will wonder why you are so different from the other guys in her life. In an effort to figure you out she will spend more time and energy on you. When she thinks she has fully comprehended you pull a rabbit out of the hat and leave her even more baffled.