Have you found yourself the perfect girl and you want to help her fall as hard for you as you have for her? Does your girlfriend mean the world to you but you're not sure if she really feels the same? You can earn her heart with some help from Get started with Step 1 below to get on your way to a blissful relationship.
Disclaimer: This is not intended for the guy who wants a
one-night stand. There are books like “The Game” and “The Players
Handbook” which can give you great techniques to hook up and end up with
an empty life and a roster of regrets. If you want the most beautiful
girl in the world on the outside and inside, a girl you would be proud
to show off to all of your friends AND family, and a girl to build the
foundation of a full life together, then “10 Ways to Win a Girl’s Heart”
is for you.
I can’t believe it. In a few weeks I will be marrying my dream girl.
She’s the type of woman who blew all of my expectations and checklists
out of the water. I look down at her in my arms, and I know I’ve found
the treasure of a lifetime. She’s so delicate both physically and
emotionally. It’s like I’m holding the rarest piece of artwork in the
world. I want to treat her gently, speak loving words, and plant kisses
all over her sweet smelling skin. I can’t help but think, “How did you,
Kris, get the most precious jewel in the world????” After all, she’s
much more than a beautiful creature to stare at. She’s intelligent,
well-spoken, athletic, care-free, and creative. She’s like a fairy tale
princess. She was Miss USA!!!
The other night, we’re on a hike, and as we get to the top, we
encounter the most beautiful view. It’s literally all the colors Kristen
picked out for our wedding, and she’s in awe. I am caught in between
the most beautiful woman and the most beautiful sunset God has created.
I’m talking to her about this article idea. After all, I want this content to be the turning point for the good guys out there. I’m
all about the underdog coming back for the win, and it just seems the
good guy ends up being the one who loses to these generic techniques
some greasy dude fine tunes from using over and over again. So, I asked
her what things I did to win her over.
Are you ready to win your dream girl? Here are 10 ways to win a girl’s heart:
1. Be pursuant
Pursue her without the pressure. In other words, don’t try to “front”
and be cocky. Have a conversation first and show her you are interested
beyond her appearance. You don’t have to come up with some crazy pickup
line. You can simply say, “I want to introduce myself…”Be sincere and
genuine in wanting to get to know her. I see too many good guys get
intimidated by a girl’s beauty up front, but take a closer look, and
find her true self. Honestly, if you can get past this, you’ll have a
leg up on the other idiots out there. After all, being genuine is where
you excel the most. This is why you are the good guy!!
2. Be a gentleman
Girls don’t want to be treated like a queen, but they do want to be treated like a princess.
She doesn’t want you to be a doormat, she wants you to be the one in
charge. Open every door for her, especially the car door. Pull out her
chair and allow her to sit down first when you take her on a date, and
let her order first. When you are walking alongside the street, you
should be the one walking closest to the street. Being a gentleman is
3. Be complimentary
On our first date, I told her “You look so beautiful.” I then told her
how great she looked when I saw her without makeup the night before. It
was real and sincere. While she later revealed to me that she had been
testing me to see if I would still like her without makeup, I simply saw
a girl who didn’t have enough time because she just got done at the
gym. That was incredibly sexy to me.
4. Be creative
You don’t have to blow your bank account to impress her. Think outside
the box. I’ve been watching one of my good buds Danny pursue his girl
right. [Update: Danny Booko is now engaged to Nia, the current Miss USA
2014.] He took her on a hike in Malibu, CA to waterfalls and then took
her to this place called M Café complete with swans. He’s also taken her
to the Getty museum and the zoo, which are free. Another idea is to
take her to a place like Color Me Mine, where you paint your own
pottery. Putting thought and originality into a date lets her know you
really care about showing her the best in life and it allows you to
experience each other across various situations.
5. Be intentional
Invite her to parties, events, and game nights with your friends. I
called Kristen every day when I finally got her number. I sent her
encouraging text messages and inspirational Bible verses. I told her I
wanted to be her man on our fifth date. She wasn’t ready, but she knew
what I wanted. I gave her the time she needed with no stipulations,
while still pursuing her intentionally. She told me she loved that.
6. Speak well of her in front of other people
Hold her hand. Pick-up artists recommend saying backhanded compliments,
but nothing beats a genuine and sincere compliment. A backhanded
compliment might work for a one-night stand, but come on, this is a
poisonous ingredient in trying to form a long-term relationship. Treat
her just as kindly in front of friends and family as you do when you are
7. Be attentive
Show her that you care for her and her needs. Pay attention to the small
details. Girls care about the small stuff, big time. For instance, on
our first date, I knew Kristen was a vegetarian, so I took her to a
vegetarian restaurant called Café Gratitude. Listen to what she has to
8. Be protective
Don’t let her walk alone to her car. If she’s going on a jog or walk at
night, tell her you want to go to keep her safe. If she’s going to the
gas station at night, go with her. If you’re at a club and she needs to
go to the restroom, take her there and wait outside the door.
9. Be a good listener
Ask solid open-ended questions that include “what,” “how,” and “why.” If
you’re doing most of the talking, you’re not getting very far with her.
Show her you care with body language and by repeating back some of what
she just told you.
10. Be romantic
Plan ahead. What do you want your love story to be? You are the writer.
When people ask where your first kiss was, you don’t want her to answer
with the driveway or that you were drunk at a party. The night I kissed
Kristen for the first time, I wanted it to be special. I took her to an
overlook on Mulholland Drive. We stood on top of the city, and that
night I was her very own Superman. It was a special moment and I ended
up proposing to her there.
Finally, be yourself. There won’t be much longevity
if she’s fallen for a false persona, and why would you want that
anyway? I’ve come to terms with the fact that I’m not the coolest guy
out there, so I have fun in my dorkiness. There is no one else like you,
so be confident. When you are walking in truth, game isn’t necessary.
You’ve already won.